Parenting is synonymous with ‘Patience’. For some, it may sound similar to ‘Crazy’ but the journey from Crazy to Patience is not an easy one. You need to be loving, patient, energetic and resourceful for your children. But as adults, we have lots of chores and responsibilities which often make us tired and impatient and we feel irritated. At times, we lose our temper when we are unable to live up to our own expectations. This makes us pour out our frustration in the form of yelling at kids.
Relax, you don’t need to be a perfect parent all the time and your child also doesn’t need to be the perfect one and disciplined all the time. It is unrealistic to expect you and your child to be angelic in every situation.
It is natural to get angry, lose temper, depressed and exhausted when it is difficult to handle the children. But if we burst out and yell at them and do not control the situation, the situation will only worsen and will affect the parent-child relationship badly.
Like us, children also have negative moods and intense emotional responses. But they too have their own abilities and strengths. By understanding them better and learning about their temperament, we will be able to manage them better.
Effects of Persistent Yelling
- Children lack self-confidence, they start seeing themselves as insignificant.
- They become fearful and do not cope-up with any other relation.
- They start being aggressive on even small issues.
- Lack of concentration is another problem with children who have been shouted at consistently.
10 Ways to Stop Yelling at Kids
- Take a deep breath for about 15 seconds. It will help you to pause and look into the situation wisely.
- You can take help from any of your family members to remind you not to yell just before they feel it’s about to start.
- Say positive and calming words to yourself – relax, keep calm, take it easy, etc.
- Leave the place for few minutes and distract yourself. Try to read a book, go for a walk, call a friend, have your favorite drink or snack.
- Be positive and think before you react, if your child is facing any problem which forces him to behave like this. Ask him, what’s bothering him inside and go to the root of the problem.
- Listen to your child patiently and put yourself in their shoes. Remember how you were at the same age and how you used to create the mess.
- Close your eyes and scream in your mind, speak out everything. Just think if there were more people who are watching your interaction with the child, how would you react. You will never scream the same way!
- Make sure you have sufficient sleep and rest. Also, ensure you take proper meals. We generally burst out when we are hungry. It makes us HANGRY!
- Drink a glass of water and affirm yourself by saying ‘I can manage’.
- Bring a little smile on your face, it will make both of you laugh and relieve the tense situation. Bring your child closer and hug tightly. Discuss the problem and solution together.
Identify The Situations
You can also identify the situations in which conflicts occur regularly. Pen down in a diary and try to sort out the root cause behind it. Promise yourself that you will not yell in the same situation again.
Have more tips to add that worked for you and your child? Please share with us in the comments section below.
Also Read: How to control anger in easy steps?
Wish you a very Happy Parenting without Yelling at Kids!