Behaviour is the conduct that your child responds to the world. Understanding your child’s behaviour helps you choose successful parenting strategies. All children are born with their own style of respondings, which is called child behaviour or nature. The behaviour of a child is different in different situations but whether it’s normal or abnormal that as a parent you need to acknowledge and it will allow you to nurture your child’s overall development.
A child behaviour can be delightful, frustrated, confused or angry depending on the situations. Here, we are talking about many behaviour signs or patterns in a child that one has to deal with everyday life. Wonder parenting understands parent’s perplexity when their children misbehave.
To make your life a bit easy, we are trying to give you information about the common child behaviour signs or problems. But before understanding the bad behaviour in the child we also need to know or focus on what is normal behaviour? Then only we can figure out the roots of bad or abnormal behaviour.
There is no barometer for understanding the normal child behaviour. It depends on the child’s age, emotional and physical development, charisma and last but not the least upbringing. When your child behaves appropriately in front of social gatherings, then you can consider it NORMAL BEHAVIOR.
Signs that show bad child behaviour
Children are the gifts of God. They are sometimes cute and sometimes naughty. A few altercations, tantrums, and howling once in a while is not abnormal. But if such behaviour becomes a daily proclivity, then it is a cause of concern. Here are some signs that predict your child’s bad behaviour.
When your child is having difficulty managing his/her emotions publicly or privately, he or she has a frequent emotional conniption and even the small little things bother them. For instance: children who have frequent temper gush or who destroy their things like toys, books, etc. It may appear serious cause of concern to some parents, while rest see the same behaviour as avouch freedom or showing leadership skills.
Every child or adult faces emotional disbalance from time to time. Feelings of sadness and emotional extremes are part of growing up. At times, some children may develop unwelcoming emotional and behavioural responses to situations in their lives that persist in overtime. The cognizance that a child’s behaviour needs attention can be disheartening or subdue to parents who tried to support their child, or it may be accepted and imputed as a personal failure by the parent.
2. Social Isolation
It is not normal that your child becomes socially impetuous. This might display destructive behaviour like hitting, throwing things, shouting, etc. When other kids face these problems then they tend to withdraw from playing with your kid and they become socially isolated. They are otherwise very talkative but because of that they cover themselves into a shell, talk back and seems rude for no reason. The socially inactive child is a serious sign of bad behaviour.
3. Abusive Language
Children shout when they are angry. But if they start swearing even before they are all ten years old, you should be worried. A child may start using abusive language to bring you into an argument or simply to get their way. When a child uses abusive language or offensive language then make sure that you need to take a corrective step towards it.
4. Disrespectful Nature
When your child talks back to you, it may seem funny and cute but when it becomes regular, it can get on your nerves. The disrespectful nature in a child is the most common sign of behaviour getting bad to worse. A child should know the meaning and value of relations and its respect.
5. Intrusive and Violent Behaviour
Anger can be tolerated but violence can’t be tolerated. Because violence leads to aggressive behaviour in children and it’s a major problem. Mood disorders, conduct disorders, impulsive nature or frustrations can cause aggression in young children. This can happen at home or a child may learn violence at school. If a child is reacting or responding by hitting, kicking, pushing or biting then this is what we call a bad child behaviour.
The most common and easily recognisable child behaviour is lying. Parents can figure out this kind of behaviour in their child easily. It is very natural for children to lie. You may feel worried or shattered when kids lie as the trust factor is hampered between child and parents. But kids only lie when they are scared.
7. Manipulations or Control
It is a very tricky behaviour to handle. Children tend to lie or cry to get what they want. When a child manipulates you, it means the child has a power over you. As my three-year-old child also manipulates me like when he wants a toy, he throws tantrums in public area and when I give him the same that means he manipulated me.
8. Lack of Motivation
Lazy kids always lack motivation. The child will not do his homework, art, music or even refuse to play. He or she will not participate in any of the activities. They find an excuse for everything.
Need for an action
Always remember, before you consider your child’s behaviour as bad please determine the root cause of it. When a child is growing up he/she might behave in a different way, sometimes bad or sometimes good. It’s just fine but anything bad which becomes permanent is an area of consideration by parents.
So, when the bad behaviour of a child is consistent then you should always try and take appropriate measures or can also take expert advice like a child behaviour specialist. After all, parents just want their child to be happy, intelligent, reasonable, caring, respectfulness, kind, and successful in any given situation.
Why do we expect our children to be angelic every time? And when they do not behave up to our expectations, we become anxious and start disciplining our children like a robot. Let them battle and learn from the situations.
Both the parent and the child can have all the wealth, power, and recognition of the world but if one loses respect out of bad behaviour, one will wobble in life!
In the end, I would like to say that your child is special and hope is the biggest tool of parenting.
“HOPE IS THE LIFE’S CACHE, PARENTS WHO ALWAYS HAVE HOPE ARE CONVIVIAL”
|Author: Richa AG | Mommy Blogger | SAHM|
Wish you a very Happy Parenting!