5 Ways | How To Be A Calm Parent?

When it comes to parenting it is often seen that parents act mature and the children act tough. Parenting can be challenging but you need to invite calmness in yourself, to help regulate your children and become a calm parent.

Kids can be uncivilized most of the time. It is because they are the ones who do not understand the social rules and lack understanding: of when and how to express emotions. You have to be a calm person yourself, to regulate the emotions of your kids. Early childhood can be a time for teaching them emotions and self-regulation. 

Here is a guide to teach you to be a calm parent:

  1. You’ll have to reframe your expectations and give more time to observe to become a calm parent. 

Being a calm parent to your kid is not easy. Your child’s behavior will keep changing and growing and your expectations of them will change. As parents, you help them develop but they are a separate identity. With regulation skills and constant cognitive leaps, they’ll have some bad days which will reflect in their attitude toward you.

 Kids do not mature until the age of five or six. Therefore it is going to be a really tough time training them. There is self-control only when the kid reaches adolescence and the final maturity hits at the age of 30. Watch them grow and for some time you have to imagine them as aliens. To establish yourself as a good parent, you need to be mature and more self-controlled than you are. You have to be very curious and have an open mind around them. 

  1. Segregate your emotions from theirs. 

You need to understand that if your child is going through some emotional time; it does not mean that you have to go through it. There is great wisdom in being calm. If your child is having a meltdown, understand that your emotions are not connected to him. After all, you are raising a fighter, right? Do not react to everything or control the situation. It will help you be a calmer, less anxious, and more confident parent. Keep a list of things that usually triggers you and stick to avoiding them.


  1. Building your parenting style.

You’ll have to make a long list of parenting toolboxes to regulate your problems that are intertwined with your little ones’ problems. Looking at a calm parent toolbox of what to do when kids react in a certain way, you will feel more regulated and less stressed.

If your child is stressing you because he is not having time for you; then you have to look carefully at his timetable and draft a routine chart for him. This will help him manage his time and he will also be less triggered and stressed about his performance.

  1. Take care of yourself.

Often parents are confused about their kid’s emotions. You need to understand that your kids are not similar to you. The biggest challenge is parenting and being a calm parent. You need to analyze the parenting style that suits your kid and also, keeps you calmer. To become a calm parent, choose an insight to note the parenting style and the kid’s reaction to it. As parents, you already have emotional resources which can get dwindled by handling your kid’s periodic breakdown. 

  1. Make peace with imperfections 

Parenting does not include being a calm parent all the time. Understand that there are times when you will lose it all and you have to repair your strategies again. Don’t try to be a perfect calm parent in front of your kids. Give yourself time and even if you lose a part of your control, try repairing it. This will help your children understand that everything can be solved with a different approach. If you’re frustrated you have to own it, apologize and then identify ways to help regulate it.


It is hard but, to practice being a calm parent and understanding what they want to do and what their actions are doing; you need to patient and watchful. You can also pay some inspirational quotes around yourself to feel calm on the bad days and you can regulate your expectations accordingly.

Happy Parenting!



Divya is a writer, who loves to read and write. She is a Company Secretary by profession. She is passionate about art, reading, writing, music, and creativity. She loves to do research on ‘Parenting’ and discover new things now and then. Her passion about positive parenting pushed her to write on ‘Wonder Parenting’. Her loving daughter, Vachie, helped her to dig deep and reach new heights on Parenting. She believes that ‘Parenting is Patience’ and shares her own journey to express that parenting approach differs for every individual.
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